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February 14, 2012 ·

A mother’s journey with childhood cancer – truth is…

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“How are you doing?”    This is always the question that follows the first one, “How is Owen?”  “I’m fine” is always my reply.

Truth is I’m not fine. I haven’t been fine since they diagnosed my son with cancer 2 years ago. Truth is I don’t know what I am any more…

To say “I’m surviving” – sounds like I’m the one personally battling this hateful disease.. I’m not. I’m “hanging in there” sounds like I’m just sort of hanging out waiting for a cure… I’m not. I don’t have the words to express how I’m feeling. I’d like to say I’m tired… the kind of tired where just to lift a finger feels like too much effort. It doesn’t matter how much I eat, sleep or exercise… this feeling of being perpetually tired just surrounds me. Someone might say “you’re depressed” but to me that doesn’t seem like the right word either. Mainly because I still manage to have that voice in my head saying “get the hell out of bed – or why the hell are you laying around? When you’ve gone through all that your son has gone through then you can take a break… until then suck it up“.

I know I’m angry but there’s no real place to focus that anger. I don’t wonder why my kid not yours. I understand genetics, environmental risks, and the cycle of life. I believe in science, research and medicine – I know that while all the tests they are running on my son may not save him – they may one day save yours.

I’m angry because his days are no longer normal. He alternates between being so tired that his days consists of moving from his bed to the couch and back again. That he has pain and that it’s become a norm. We now measure it on a scale of 1 to 10 to determine whether we should contact the doctor or not.

I’m envious… and this is the one that makes me feel most guilty. I’m envious of those that are winning against his disease. While on one hand they give me hope on the other hand it slams into the gut the reality that those same medicines aren’t working for him.

I’m scared… I’m scared because all the studies reflect whether a patient has made it to five years. I wonder will we have 5 years with him. At that point he’d be 19. Or will it be less? Is it pointless to hope for more? How will his brothers, his dad and I be if he’s no longer around? Will his youngest brother remember there was a time when O-wee wasn’t sick?

His disease has already changed us all – made us painfully aware. I know there is a slogan that says something similar to “cancer doesn’t define me”… and I agree it doesn’t define Owen. But it does define the path that our family is on. It’s changed us all.

And lastly I have regret… I have such regret that my kids, their cousins, our family… no longer have the peaceful innocence that I had growing up. That I have to pause and think when my 8 year old asks “Is Owen going to die?” before giving my answer “‘not today”.

Partial Lyrics from “If you’re going through hell”
Artist: Rodney Atkins

Well I been deep down in that darkness
I been down to my last match
Felt a hundred different demons
Breathing fire down my back
And I knew that if I stumbled
I’d fall right into the trap that they were laying,

But the good news
Is there’s angels everywhere out on the street
Holding out a hand to pull you back up on your feet
The ones that you’ve been dragging for so long
You’re on your knees
You might as well be praying
Guess what I’m saying

If you’re going through hell
Keep on going, don’t slow down
If you’re scared don’t show it
You might get out
Before the devil even knows you’re there

 

Least anyone be concerned after reading this article… I WILL NOT FAULTER in my support for my son… so regardless of everything else. I AM HIS MOM… And I WILL NOT let him down.

Related Articles:

A mother’s journey with childhood cancer – giving up is never an option

Owen’s Caringbridge Site

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